Men Violating Women's Boundaries Are The Most Marginalized Community In Canada
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Men Violating Women's Boundaries Are The Most Marginalized Community In Canada
Life in the upside-down, up north
Brigid Klyne-Simpson, a man, was “extremely devastated” that a gym for women refused to admit him. “It was important to me to be in a place that would be, like, explicitly accepting, like, ‘You are a woman, you’re allowed to be here,’” he whines.
Klyne-Simpson, who, like, “identifies” as transgender, says he needs to be in the same changing room with naked women because he is exactly the same kind of person. Except that he is of course not the same kind of person. He is a big, enormous man, so no woman is capable of ignoring his male presence.
Klyne-Simpson was not denied the opportunity to work out. Bodyworks Fitness of Parksville on Vancouver Island only told Klyne-Simpson to remain in the mixed-gender areas of the facility.
Dale Nagra, owner of Bodyworks Fitness, says Klyne-Simpson is welcome to work out at the co-ed gym but says other gym-goers at the ladies-only gym may not be comfortable.
“We want them to be comfortable, but we also have to worry about the young girls that this gym is set up for and the women, and how are their parents gonna feel that they’re in there, then this person walks in with a male voice and big person,” Nagra said.
“So now you pick the comfort of the male who identifies as a woman…and then anybody can go in there saying, ‘OK, I identify as a woman, and I want to be able to go in there.’ And so, do we pick the comfort of the transgender person, and they may not be as comfortable with the co-ed gym but at least that’s an alternative, or do we pick the comfort of the young girls that are working out there that might not feel comfortable?”
Of course, this was not good enough. Any reminder that he is not female wounds his very soul. Klyne-Simpson “has reached out to the BC Human Rights Commissioner and Alberni Valley Pride about the issue and hopes to find a solution,” meaning he would like to organize an intense pressure campaign of media smears and political intimidation against Bodyworks.
He also apparently wants to take his grievance to the provincial Human Rights Tribunal — the same panel which found in favor of the women sued by transgender pest Jessica Yaniv for refusing to wax his testicles. We can hope.
“While I never set out to become an accidental activist or anything, I feel like maybe I do have a certain responsibility that because this has happened to me, I need to make sure it doesn’t happen to anyone else,” Klyne-Simpson said.
See, he feels “discomfort” being in a gym with men. He feels intimidated by all those “buff guys,” he says. He feels marginalized. More marginalized than women who have spent thousands of years creating spaces away from men, only to have men tear those walls down time after time to make public life impossible for them. Because who cares how they feel?
Canada’s ruling party doesn’t seem to care. On Twitter, the British Columbia parliamentary secretary for gender equity declared undying support for men who enjoy being in women’s spaces. Because who cares how any women feel about it?
Klyne-Simpson is not “under attack.” He does not face any improper barriers. He is a man who perhaps never felt like a man, but that does not make him a woman. It makes him a sad man. He needs therapy, not permission to make women uncomfortable.
He is explicit on this point: women must override their evolved human heuristic of sex identification, a key survival trait in a world filled with violent, rapey males, or else they are bigots.
“Klyne-Simpson says she understands some people can feel uncomfortable at first if they have never met a transgender person before,” we are informed, as if not knowing he is a transgender person, rather than knowing he is a man, is the problematic thing.
“But all it takes is education,” he says, launching into gnosis. “Once you understand trans women are women, trans men are men, non-binary people are who they say they are, it’s as simple as that.”
The word “understand” does so much work here. What gender activism demands is an “understanding” that a man is not a man if he says he is not a man. He demands we participate in a lie.
Klyne-Simpson walks into the locker room, existing as a stimulus. Any woman in that locker room will respond to the stimulus of a male presence, and that response will be instinctive. Primal. Spinal.
It is abuse to tell women that a man is not a man because he says he is not a man. “If you still feel uncomfortable after that, that’s on you, it’s not on me. I am who I am, it’s as simple as that. I just look different. That’s all.”
That is of course not all the difference. He smells different from a woman, sounds different from a woman, looms over people different from a woman, has immense strength advantages over almost any woman. Because he is not a woman.
All the material realities of being a large man — one who apparently does not like to hear women say “no” to him — are impossible for any woman to ignore. Because he is a man.
Humans have evolved four ways to respond to a stimulus. Confronted by a naked man like Brigid Klyne-Simpson in the shower, as Rebecca Phillips was in the Santee YMCA, any woman could either:
Run away (transphobia)
Confront him (transphobic violence)
Freeze in terror (not inclusive, but at least she’s keeping her bigotry quiet)
Fawn over him (inclusive, hooray)
In the context of change rooms and showers, nudity intensifies fear, and thus response. It is abusive to tell women that they must simply swallow their discomfort to make a man feel some way, or respond in some certain way, under those circumstances. Canada’s “most marginalized community” looks and sounds and smells and walks like an abusive man making women uncomfortable on purpose. An incel rights movement.
I am not without sympathy or empathy for Mr. Klyne-Simpson. It is obvious that he needs exercise, and a change of lifestyle. Handed a way out of the hard work, though, he has taken it once again, and blamed women.
Men Violating Women's Boundaries Are The Most Marginalized Community In Canada
Very good story and so discouraging. I'm about to toss in the towel with this one!