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National Organization for Women Hires Estranged Husband, Father Turned Fetishist
A deep dive into James Gallmeier, autogynephile
On January 15, 2023 @Troonytoons shared a viral post featuring a man named James Gallmeier who is a board member of the National Organization for Women in Charlotte, NC. Gallmeier chooses to go by the name “Jenny-Jayme’s Gunn” despite being a grown man who is clearly in his 50’s. The Post featured an image of Gallmeier wishing everyone a “Happy International Fetish Day” and a horrendous clip of him twirling around in a leather bikini.

Most people were horrified to see that a “WOMEN’s” organization would hire a MAN with a fetish but what is even more baffling is that James Gallmeier is an established activist in the city of Charlotte.
Gallmeier first moved to Charlotte on September of 2018 from Amarillo TX. Promptly after that he was invited to a Young Democrats Christmas Party where his networking abilities launched him to prominence despite the fact he was wearing a hideous red pleather dress that was a couple of sizes too small.
Gallmeier has acquired many positions and a lot of recognition in Charlotte ranging from his post as the LGBT+ Outreach Coordinator for the National Organization of Women in Charlotte and Charlotte Trans Pride Coordinator with Charlotte Pride. He Co-Hosts a show called Coffee and Pan Dulce where he and ex-Congressman Christian Cano talk about their Progressive Politics. He lobbied to get both a Mask Ordinance and a Nondiscrimination Ordinance passed. He was awarded the Progress Award in 2022 by the LGBTQ Democrats of Mecklenburg County. Vi Lyles, the major of Charlotte, appointed him as a member of the Community Relations Committee. The Carolina LGBTQ+ Chamber of Commerce rewarded him with a business grant simply for being “trans.” He was even invited to Wedgewood Community Church to give a half hour long sermon about the redundancies of gender on Mother’s day !!! (32: 00)
He was also featured in a 3-part video feature by Queen City News along with the Director of Transcend Charlotte Bethany Corrigan. The first portion video of the series attempted to paint Gallmeier as someone who struggled with his gender identity from a young age (5:20) claiming that he had suffered from suicidal ideation (7:00).
The pity party continues in the second video. Gallmeier cries about how things get better (0:30). Then he fibs about how his mother disowned him and claims that his father, who is an older Vietnam Vet, embraced him. The news station only displayed pictures of him in drag and none of him and his father together (8:30).
In the Third Video Gallmeier claims that he was coming out as transgender during his 2nd divorce. He also alleges that he was sexually assaulted and beaten by a group of his former friends at a lake house, and that the Branson, Missouri police ignored him; it was his introduction to “womanhood,” Gallmeier says. After this he tried to commit suicide and became homeless until supposedly one of his ex-wives helped him transition (3:00).
Currently he is Lobbying against SB49, a Parental Protections bill in NC which would inform parents if their children wanted to change their gender and allow them to be more involved in the School Curriculum. The bill has passed through the senate and is expected to pass through the house; however, he and other activists can encourage NC Governor Roy Cooper to veto it. Which is honestly concerning since Gallmeier is a father who transitioned as an adult.
Also it’s concerning that a fetishist would be against Parental Protections. This is the statement that Gallmeier shared on all of his social media posts.
So who was James Gallmeier before he was twirling around in pleather?
The now 54-year-old James Gallmeier was born to Shirley Gunn Gallmeier and Vietnam vet Jim Gallmeier Sr. on September 17, 1969. His younger brother Timothy Paul Gallmeier was born in 1972.
James married his high school sweetheart Cynthia Leah Benning on December 31, 1987 in Texas a few months before they both graduated from Lubbock High School.In July of 1988 they had their first son, who is now approximately 34 years old. Two more chiuldren, a son and a daughter, were born in 1999 and 2001, respectively.
A bizarre descent into crime and worse
On December 04, 2002, Gallmeier committed his first criminal offense in San Antonio, TX. This was obtained from a background report it is listed as: THEFT $20-$500 – CHECK.
A year later his brother tragically passed away at only 31 years of age.
And this is where the story starts to get a bit wild. Getty Images has this picture of James Gallmeier marrying a woman who is referred to as Lorraine on Valentine’s Day in 2004 and exactly six days after Cynthia Leah Benning filed for divorce and a temporary restraining order.
The only two children listed in the divorce proceedings are a six year-old boy and a three year-old girl. The eldest son was not listed, but he would have been 15 years old at the time of the divorce.
This “Lorraine” is listed as Rosemarie Gallmeier in court records. The two had a turbulent marriage which lasted from 2004- 2016. She was also listed in many of the court charges that were filed against Mr. James R. Gallmeier Jr while they lived in Branson, Missouri.
05/03/2006 - Only 2 years after they wed, a suit was filed against them. It is listed as AC Suit on Account and the City of Branson is listed as the Plaintiff. The Docket Entries of the case show that the couple got off easy this time around with only a Default Judgement. Rosemarie and James each had to pay a fee of $104.95 each.
09/27/2006 - 4 months after their last offense Carol Jones Realtors served them with a charge of AC Rent and Possession . The Docket Entries show that the court case was cancelled and re-scheduled at least twice until it was dismissed without prejudice on 05/20/2008.
03/19/2007- Capital One Bank files an AC Breach of Contract charge against James Gallmeier. This case was re-scheduled multiple times until it was eventually dismissed by both parties.
06/03/2009 - Matterhorn Financial files an AC Breach of Contract charge against James Gallmeier. The court case was dismissed for failure to prosecute on 6/15/10 in ordinance with Local Court Rule 37.1
Summer 2010 - his first-wife, Cynthia Benning, remarried. His second wife became ill and was hospitalized for the first time.
06/01/2011 - The Missouri Department filed a CC Cert of Lien-DOR Taxes charge against him, and the Disposition decided that he was to pay a total of $3,091 , which he eventually managed to pay off.
12/12/2011 – James posted this status from his former Facebook account. He was scammed by two of his former friends who were supposed to purchase a Tempur-pedic™ mattress for his wife Rosemary, who was ill. The interesting thing about this is that he claimed to be a Christian.
Things were not good for the family. On May 30, 2014, James Gallmeier was featured in a TSAOzarkArea video seeking help from Salvation Army. He stated that his wife had been hospitalized at least 2 times and that the family was struggling to make ends meet, as Rosemarie was unable to work. He mentioned that he had two kids, a boy who was 14 years old, and a girl who was 11. He did not mention his first-born son Richard, who was 23 at the time.
04/09/2012 - James Gallmeir receives a Criminal/Infract. The charge is listed as: Failed To Obey Traffic Control Device {Misdemeanor C RSMo: 304.271 }. He was arrested by Branson PD, incarcerated for 15 days, and got two years of supervised release.
His oldest son Richard was thrilled over father’s incarceration, but no one can really blame the son for loathing his father. James was apparently a detestable man before his leather days.
06/15/2012 - James received more Criminal/Infract Charges , this time he was arrested by NIXA PDA and was charged with Resisting/Interfering with Arrest, Detention Or Stop { Misdemeanor A RSMo: 575.150 }. He was sentenced with Incarceration in County Jail (Suspended Execution of Sentence)
A local radio station tweeted the news.
05/14/2013 - The Oaks at Branson charged both James & Rosemarie Gallmeier with AC Unlawful Detainer, which is the legal action by which a landlord seeks to evict a tenant. They did not appear in court and the Default Judgement was a fine of $5,010 in damages.
07/31/2013 - Gallmeier is hit with a CC Transcript Judgement. The plaintiff is listed as: STATE EX REL DIRECTOR OF REVENUE. Gallmeier is forced to pay $1,818.71 to the Missouri Department of Revenue.
02/05/2014 – Gallmeier’s company OZARK LIQUIDATION INC, James Gallmeier and his collegues: Phillip L Ziezer, Weslee McElwee amd Casey Burch are sued by BRANSON'S NANTUCKET LLC . The Charges are listed as CC Other Tort. This court hearing was cancelled and re-scheduled multiple times and was eventually dismissed by the parties. Ozark Liquidation Inc. went out of business.
06/25/2015 – This is the date that James Gallmeier claims to have been sexually assaulted.
However, I don’t believe that this is true because Gallmeier created a FetLife Profile sometime in 2015 while he was still married to Rosemarie. He joined a Group called Enriching the Bonds of Enlightenment on July 16, 2015, which is a Sissyfication group for Autogynophiles. The group was led by a trans dominatrix named Madam Maryanne Josephine who put Gallmeier in Sissification Training.
His first post in the group describes how Mary Jo commanded him to perform oral sex on 16 men and that he allowed one of them to ejaculate inside Gallmeier. And he described many more of his sexual encounters in detail.
James Gallmeier found himself homeless a few months after that. On October 10, 2015, he posted this in his FetLife group in hopes that his fellow fetishists would provide him with shelter.
His son Richard married his wife that very same month and he chose to not invite his father. No one would want a fetishist to spoil their special day.
01/29/2016 - After 12 horrible years of marriage, Rosemarie finally filed for divorce. They did not have any children together.
Gallmeier then re-located to Amarillo, TX and changed to “Transgender” on this FetLife update. It is also highly unlikely that his first ex-wife, Cynthia Benning, and her new husband helped him transition. She put a restraining order on him and has a young daughter from her new marriage.
In 2018, James moved to Charlotte, North Carolina. Jim Gallmeier Sr. and his new stepmother Carolyn did do their best to establish a relationship with James junior, as displayed by this Birthday card. However, they are not in touch.
James Gallmeier shared the following tweets on how he blocked both of his parents from social media.
Gallmeier does not have anyone from his family as mutuals on Facebook — neither of his parents, their respective spouses, his own children, his daughter in law, his brother’s widow, his niece, or either or his ex-wives. It is clear he does not care for his kin either, and the feelings of disdain and shame are reciprocated.
Such a man should not pretend to value family, or to have a say in how other people should raise their kids.
This leads us to our next topic … what the fuck is wrong with James Gallmeier?
Mr. Gallmeier is what is known as an autogynephile , a term that was coined by sexologist Ray Blanchard. It is a term for the specifically male fetish of being sexually aroused by the thought of being a biological female; it is what was previously known as transvestic fetishism. James is not homosexual, as he was previously married to two different women and fathered children.
His sexuality has evolved to be incredibly deviant, and his sexual preferences are indiscriminately disgusting. Let’s have a look at his FetLife Profile
He “identifies” as pansexual, and he is sexually attracted to biological women, pretty homosexual transsexual women, men, and other ugly crossdressers such as himself. He will take anything or anyone who wants to touch him.
He admits in his about section that “Jessye” is his persona and that he lives as “her” fulltime. This is because he is own erotic target. All autogynophiles are sexually attracted to themselves.
His list of fetishes includes everything from rubber, latex, anal (giving & receiving), wearing butt plugs in public, stretching his asshole with anal toys, double penetration, creampies (giving and receiving), blow jobs (giving & receiving), and fucking while wearing a latex cat suit. He likes making men and women cum. He is also into nipple stretching, big black cocks, outdoor sex, and public play — he is an exhibitionist that likes masturbating and performing other sex acts in public.
Breath play, or choking, has now evolved into putting bags on people’s heads in order to asphyxiate them. It’s the one thing most mothers tell you to not do as a kid because it could kill you. This is dangerous even by kink standards because you cannot see or read the other person’s facial expressions. If the other person is also restrained, they would have 0 way of communicating that they need air and they could suffocate to death. This is psychopathic.
Gallmeier’s view of women is objectifying and dehumanizing. As mentioned previously. James Gallmeier joined a sissification group named Enriching the Bonds of Enlightenment which was run by a trans Dominatrix named Madam Mary Jo. The picture below features another fetishist from said group. They view women as submissives that are there to be penetrated and objectified, which falls along the lines of John Money’s Gender Schema .
His view of women is purely sexual and autogynephilic, he is attracted to himself as a woman. Rod Fleming has an excellent short video explaining how someone becomes an AGP or develops other paraphilias.
James Gallmeier’s form of Autogynephilia is Transvestic as all variations are; this means it’s his kink to dress up in women’s clothes. In his case it's latex costumes, colorful overalls, or slutty toddler outfits, as if he was trying to imitate a little girl. This is incredibly troubling, because he has a daughter who was born around 2002. He has a ton of little girl stuff. He is a 53-year-old man sexually attracted to himself, his own erotic target.
There are two explanations for this and neither of them are good
He could be an age regressor - which is when someone pretends to be younger than their age. If this is the case it wouldn’t be a full time thing since he isn’t in little girl mode 24/7 . If he is an age regressor he is pretending to be a 5-8 year old girl since there are no pictures of him wearing diapers or of him owning pacifiers. He owns a bunch of unicorn toys, clothes, headbands, and backpacks. He even compared himself to bubbles on Facebook. James could be sexually attracted to the idea of himself being a child.
It would be similar to the case of Stefonknee Wolschtt - who is a grown man who lives as a girl toddler full time. Wolsch is essentially an annalo erotic autogynophile who is fixated on the child bit, according to Rod Fleming, and he is not attracted to children, just to himself as a child, which is still disgusting.
Gallmeier would only pretend to be a Girl Child within the Privacy of his own home if he is an age repressor as it is not socially acceptable to be trans-age. He enjoys the status that he gets from his activism since we as a society have normalized transvestic autogynophelia with the gender identity movement.
The other possibility: James is a plushophile. He owns so many unicorn plushies, and it seems to be sexual, per this picture of him holding a unicorn to his man boob. It is possible that he started masturbating with his stuffed animals as a child. But unicorn plushies do seem to be a sexual thing for Gallmeier regardless.
None of the theories are particularly appealing, and he could also be both, since paraphilias come in clusters. Either way. this is not a man who should not be left near children.
There is more to Mr. Gallmeier and his sexual pathology. Look at his tweets!
James was also unfaithful to his two wives, so it's not a shock that he is polyamorous and wants to live in a “trans girl commune.”
Gallmeier did not list this on his Fetlife, but he also has a piss fetish. Again, fetishes come in clusters.
Remember that he is into public play and exhibitionism. His tweets showed that he was totally okay with the Wi Spa incident. He gaslit people over the incident, saying that parents shouldn’t expose their kids to “nudity.” He is okay with a naked man exposing himself to multiple vulnerable women in stages of undress but not with women and girls being undressed in the same place.
Women are not sexually predatory to girls.
In this Tweet he is gaslighting Helen Staniland for not wanting to be near a naked man.
This shows James Gallmeier has the potential to be a sexual predator, or to sexually coerce people. And it’s not just women, because he likes doing this to “chasers,” too!
The following posts should be more than enough to convey that James Gallmeier is eager to violate people’s boundaries. He is either a predator, or on the verge of sexually offending, as it is clear that he does not respect anyone’s sexual preferences or women’s single sex spaces.
This man with a fetish wants to have a say in North Carolina’s education curriculum. Perhaps he wants to alienate youth from their parents. It is classical grooming.
If children are taught that genital preferences are “transphobic” in school, then he will have an easier time trying to get in their pants. If girls are taught in schools that a penis can be a “female” sex organ, then they will be groomed to accept him in their locker rooms.
We must do everything in our power hold the National Organization for Women accountable for giving this dangerous man a platform to break down our boundaries, and for allowing him to lobby against parental rights under their name. Women deserve protection from deranged fetishists, while children deserve to grow up learning healthy boundaries, and to have a childhood free from any adult’s fetishes.
Please help share this story.
If you live in North Carolina, call your legislators to warn them about this man, and call out National Organization on Twitter for betraying women to advance a #PenisRightsMovement.
National Organization for Women Hires Estranged Husband, Father Turned Fetishist
"SB49, a Parental Protections bill in NC which would inform parents if their children wanted to change their gender and allow them to be more involved in the School Curriculum. The bill has passed through the senate and is expected to pass through the house; however, he and other activists can encourage NC Governor Roy Cooper to veto it."
Cooper is a Democrat, he will be under intense pressure to veto. If you live in North Carolina, contact his office here: https://governor.nc.gov/contact/contact-governor-cooper
Let him know that you could not possibly vote for him ever again if he vetos this bill.
Also, contact your state representative, and give the same message. Also state senators; they have already voted, find out how they voted and let them know what you think of their vote.
I got sick reading this. Absolutely horrible.