Use The Pronouns Or You'll Be Sorry. Also This Does Not Even Affect You, Why Do You Care?
When the 'be kind' mask comes off the totalitarian ideology
History records that for one brief moment, it was okay to be gay. And then it passed, because the straights with interesting hair colors demanded the spotlight on campus. Kevin Waldman, a gay clinical researcher at the University of Michigan, finds that “gay male students experience conditional belonging when situated within a trans-centered LGBTQ identity hierarchy” in his research. This is a fancy way of saying they feel like strangers within their own putative ‘movement’.
Out of a sample set of 49 gay men in college, “86% reported feeling pressured to align with trans political or ideological frameworks to maintain social acceptance, while 0% of transgender participants perceived such alignment as optional for coalition cohesion.” Put simply, the straight dude in lipstick treats every gay man as a validation of his ideology, while the gay men keep their true feelings in the closet for fear of social ostracism and false hate crime reports.
“Belonging is experienced as contingent on alignment, producing chronic self-monitoring and limiting conditions for autonomous self-authorship.” Rather than liberation, “the current model of LGBTQ inclusion functions as a system of conditional belonging that impedes independent identity consolidation among gay men in university settings.”
This is all consistent with the critical literature on campus life for gay men, such as Cis White Gay: The Making of a Gender Heretic by Ben Appel, who identifies “chronic self-monitoring” as scrupulosity. Except that his own scrupulosity was a result of religious abuse by the cult he grew up in, so that he recognized what it was at Columbia.
“Gay identity becomes a credential, not a self.” Gay men are set back in their “identity formation” by a campus culture that elevates the transgender identity of a straight male over a gay male. “The cultural rationale for queer belonging is no longer anchored in same-sex orientation but in gender ideology, and students report that failing to mirror this ideological center disqualifies them from the community ostensibly built to represent them. Their identity remains named, but no longer narratively grounded.”
It’s as if gay men don’t even exist, anymore, so that the ‘trans people’ can exist. Just like women stop existing the instant a man in lipstick wants to be a ‘lesbian’, or just hang out in the women’s locker room. Just like age stops existing when a man in lipstick wants to lounge naked where minor girls will have to see him if they want to reach the toilets. Just like sex difference stops existing when a man in lipstick wants to beat a woman in the face at the Olympics. Just like race stops existing when Andrea Long Chu, a man who wears lipstick, declares himself to be a Chinese woman.
Queer theory smashes boundaries so that categories will blend, but what actually happens is the destruction of categories. Transgression of boundaries is both intrinsic to the project and the wellspring of its totalizing, therefore totalitarian, prescriptions. It’s okay to be gay on campus, as long as you remember that you don’t really exist except to support the straight dude in the lipstick. If you ever forget, those knives will come out. This is called ‘forced teaming’, and it is how abusers groom organizations to support their abuse.
British Columbia has turned into an Obama-era college campus. Like the Obama administration, which imposed new rules that effectively circumvented the constitutional rights of self-defense for students accused of criminal sexual acts, or the UK police, who invented the ‘non-crime hate incident’, British Columbia created a Human Rights tribunal to end-run the Canadian Constitution with a parallel court using more nebulous rules of law.
This is how Barry Neufeld, an 80-year-old former school trustee, was found guilty of having “‘invoked negative and insidious stereotypes’ about 2SLGBTQ+ people” by expressing disbelief in magic gender identities. Neufeld was ordered to pay $750,000. Absurdly, this action was brought by the Chilliwack Teachers’ Association and B.C. Teachers’ Federation (BCTF) “on behalf of their members who identify as LGBTQ.”
In Quebec, another Human Rights Tribunal has fined a hair salon in Longueuil $500 for failing to put a “non binary” haircut option on their booking site. Like the BCTF, Alexe Frédéric Migneault (they/them) pretends to represent a coalitional acronym that has not held any sort of secret ballot vote among themselves to elect him. Her. It. This thing that felt discriminated against because hair loss made them sad, but the absence of a “nonbinary” haircut option made they/them even sadder. Clearly, the salon owner deserves to be abused to compensate for this person’s childish external locus of control.
“Pearl Eliadis, an associate professor at the Max Bell School of Public Policy and a human rights lawyer, said this case does not set any legal precedent and would not force all businesses to change their gender pricing, but it should make them think twice”, CBC reports with oozing earnestness. The case was not about gender pricing, it was about “feeling seen”, or more simply just feelings.
The feelings of the gendered are special feelings, magic feelings, holy sacred feelings that require a whole-of-society effort to sustain. These feelings are so important in Canada that the families of children murdered by transgender killers are not allowed to hold regular services to mourn. “The funeral planned in Tumbler Ridge for Kylie Smith, a 12-year-old who was killed in a school shooting last week, has been canceled due to potential threats made against her family, according to a report by Tumbler RidgeLines.”
Jesse Strang, the 17-year-old transgender identified shooter also reported as Jesse Van Rootselaar, killed his gender-affirming mother and 11 year-old brother before entering Tumbler Ridge Secondary School in British Columbia to continue his murder spree. He then took his own life. Royal Canadian Mounted Police initially reported Strang as a “woman in a dress” and the resulting confusion may have added to the death toll.
Speaking to reporters remotely in the immediate aftermath of the shootings, Staff Sgt. Kris Clark of the RCMP referred to Strang/Van Rootselaar as a “gunperson” and refused to share his name for “privacy reasons”. Answering a reporter’s question that used male pronouns, Deputy Commissioner Dwayne McDonald called the shooter “female” because “we identify the suspect as they chose to be identified in public and on social media.”
In Canada, failure to use the preferred pronouns of a murderer, or to offer nonbinary options, is punishable. Fear palls even the funerals for the victims of the killer. Threats from “a very dangerous person” caused the cancelation of a funeral and the same Staff Sergeant Clark says the RCMP is “having a tough time determining if the harassment, both online and in the community, were real [sic]”. As always, if it is bad for the sacred class of men in lipstick, then it isn’t even happening.
“Months before Jesse Van Rootselaar became the suspect in the mass shooting that devastated a rural town in British Columbia, Canada, OpenAI considered alerting law enforcement about [his] interactions with its ChatGPT chatbot,” according to The Wall Street Journal, which uses female pronouns. “Internally, about a dozen staffers debated whether to take action on Van Rootselaar’s posts.”
It is unclear why the company ultimately decided not to contact Canadian authorities, but we can guess that it may have been the blinding contrast of his concerning posts with his stunning and brave gendersoul. It is likewise easy to believe the father of Kylie Smith, for the especially-gendered do tend to get very upset whenever their sense of self is threatened for any reason.
If you fail to use the pronouns, you will suffer the consequences, no matter the reason. The more absurd and extreme the demand for validation is, the more life-saving and vital it supposedly becomes. Everyone gets this, so nobody ever wants to touch it, even if they risk watching a mass shooting unfold. They “think twice”, to quote one Canadian human rights lawyer. They display scrupulosity, a religious self-policing.
This is all consistent with the various spectacles we have gotten used to at The Distance in which angry men harass women for holding meetings, sue them for having women-only apps, or drag them through legal process for using the ‘wrong’ pronoun. Most famous of these was Maya Forstater. But there have been several more cases in recent years.
Jennifer Melle, a nurse in south London, went through nine months of disciplinary hell on that basis in 2025. She has just returned to work today after a ten-month suspension — yet still faces two investigations, one for “misgendering” and the other for talking about the experience. Sandie Peggie, another NHS nurse, was also dragged through a long and expensive process because she did not want to share her changing room with a delusional man in lipstick. An employment tribunal determined in January that her suspension was unfair because women are allowed to request spaces free of men to get undressed in their workplaces. Peggie still has to appeal the remainder of the tribunal’s ruling.
These actions are preparatory to the latest NHS announcement that nonbinary staff can now use “Xey/Xem” pronouns at work, and “should apologise if they accidentally use the 'wrong' pronouns.” Because if pronouns “aren’t important to you,” then it is “even more important to use them”, so that self-important people don’t complain about you.
Returning to British Columbia, nurse Amy Eileen Hamm has spent years being prosecuted by BC College of Nurses and Midwives for the crime of knowing what a woman is, and that they are not men. BCCNM is determined to make Hamm pay the legal costs of this ideological inquisition. To those of us paying attention these last ten years, none of this is a surprise. It is the constant command of the genderwoo cult: be scrupulous, or be destroyed.
Minnesota Democrats are hurrying to pass an Equal Rights Amendment, SF 473, that would erase sex-based protections for women and girls. HF 501, the companion bill to SF 473, would replace females in the state constitution with a new, protected class of female “gender identity” that men in lipstick can opt into. Democrats want to make Minnesotans think twice before ‘misgendering’ the men who stand at the top of their intersectional oppression hierarchy. These are effectively blasphemy laws.
Minnesota state representative Christopher ‘Leigh’ Finke wants to have a ‘sanctuary state’ for children being chemically and surgically altered for sexual purposes as their future adult selves. He writes books for kids telling them to visit sex shops and explore fetish gear. Mr. Finke also says that pornography belongs in public schools because it is “educational” for “queer” children.
The mask always slips, in the end. Your children must be exposed to transgender pornography at the earliest possible moment so that Christopher Finke can continue to be Leigh Finke. But also: How does this even affect you? Aren’t these sacred trans people just living their lives? Can’t you just leave the poor innocent dears alone? Only a really sick person would spend so much time on this subject. Something must really be wrong for you to care so much about this. The progression from denial to silencing to social ostracism is intentional. It is meant to discipline us, to get us used to our new masters. Remember, the people you cannot safely ridicule are always the ones who actually rule over you.
Excellent!
Powerful piece! Felt like a punch.
My Democrat women friends are all like, "Oh, what does it matter if they want to be in the women's locker room? It doesn't bother ME." (When did it STOP bothering them?) I always wish I could hand them an article like this one, that describes the predatory and insane abuse of children, escalating "progressively" in power and in madness. It's extraordinary how many women will even abandon their children to the Neuterers, just so they can win the contest for approval and be viewed as good girls.